Tag: queer

And now I’m an expert…?

I was lost and confused for years and now I’m suddenly an expert. I gotta admit it feels good.

(From a Fetlife questions whose gist was: “I feel like this but am not sure how to identify. Non applicable, genderqueer, genderfuld, etc.)

Well a lot of what queer theory is in general is just postmodern philosophy applied to human sexuality. And one of the great contributions of postmodernism was its emphasis of the “translinguistic”.

That may sound complicated, but it really just means that every experience, from our gender to eating an ice cream sundae is technically ineffable. We can approximate how we feel with words and phrases. And we do all the time. Some phrases fit quite well. If you’ve ever studied a foreign language you’ve probly had the experience of learning some phrase that you were like “Oh, that’s so perfect for situation X! I wish we had that phrase in English!”

So, to answer your question, genderqueer and genderfluid are just two terms with a slightly different emphasis on the gray space ‘twixt male- and femaleness. Genderfluid tends to be used for people who feel their gender “flows” or is variable day by day or hour by hour. Whereas genderqueer emphasizes a more static state between male and female. Basically like androgynous, but you also get a queer identity and get to be part of the queer community… I guess.

Loved your question. As a trans person currently transitioning, I’m still pondering whether I identify as a dykey androgynous woman or as someone non-binary or genderqueer or genderfluid… or if there’s really much of a difference there at all, if it’s just two angles of the same thing.

My strategy’s been to “feel out” what fits best. We’ll see. Best of luck!


Trans women and sexual empowerment 

So many complex feelings ‘bout this. So, I get rather angsty whenever the subject of female sexual empowerment is brought up. Considering, I’m a trans woman, so this sort of makes me feel like shit. What kind of woman feels bad about her own and her sisters’ sexual empowerment?

Long answer. For twenty-three years I tried, really tried to be a straight-ish boy. I gave it a go in every conceivable way. It never really worked out for me. So I’m transitioning and, yes, on the whole things are starting to work out much better.

But the thing is, before I began my transition I had no idea where I fit into cissexual, heterosexual (“normal”) human sexuality. Because I was an intellectual little nerd, I’d read about things like evolutionary psychology, which would almost bring me to tears because it seemed to imply that no one would ever love me. When I began seriously investigating gender nonconformity and then, several years later, transitioning, I encountered infamous sexist psychologists like Raymond Blanchard. I would again be brought to the brink of tears ‘cause I thought, well shit, no one is ever going to love me. Read the rest of this entry »

Gender Variance and Patriarchy/Variabilidad de género y el patriarcado

I sometimes feel like I’m the only gender variant person defending the “patriarchy,” in the sense that I DON’T JUDGE HISTORICAL CHARACTERS BY MODERN STANDARDS! Like, we can criticize Freud all we want, and for God sake’s, the plot of the Iliad is literally Achilles’ hissy fit ’cause Agamemnon stole his slave girl. Now, regardless of who these guys were or weren’t, the fact is, Freud discovered that there was such a thing as a subconscious and you didn’t. Homer was a master of syncopated dactylic hexameter in a world where writing was virtually unknown—and you weren’t.

These aren’t moral standards we should shoot for today, but I’m so fucking tired and queers deriding the giants’ on whose shoulders we’re standing, and I’ll remind you that we don’t see eye to eye with them PRECISELY BECAUSE we are on their shoulders.


A veces me siento como la única persona transgénero que defiende el “patriarcado”, en el sentido de que NO JUZGO A PERSONAJES HISTÓRICAS POR NUESTROS ESTÁNDARES MODERNOS! Todo el mundo puede criticar a Freud, y, por Dios y la satánica virgin, la trama de La Ilíada literalmente se trata del rabio de Aquiles por el robo de su esclava por parte de Agamemnon. Ahora bien, fueran quien fuesen estos hombres, el hecho es que Freud descubrió que existía un subconsciente y tú no. Homero era el maestro de hexamétrico dactíclico sincopado en un mundo en que la escritura era apenas conocida— y tú no.

Claro que estos hombres no tenían estándares morales que debamos replicar hoy en día, obviamente, pero estoy hart@hart@ hart@ de gente queer que critica nuestros antepasados intelectuales. Os acuerdo que no estamos de acuerdo con ellos precisamente porque utilizamos lo que ellos han descubierto para ir más allá.

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